Kiki Fikar is a native New Yorker who is passionate about taking the day to day life we all experience and sharing it in her tales from Suburbia. She will often be found at the gym, writing snippets each day for future story lines, listening to her two children create their lives, and building the perfect beachfront home and writing retreat in her mind.
Not the kind of hard that comes with trophies or titles but the kind where you try to keep everyone happy, even when you’re running on fumes. The kind that doesn’t always get noticed… until it does.
Lately, I’ve been wanting to bring back the Christmas spirit I feel like I misplaced somewhere between responsibilities, routines, and real life. You know—that spark that used to come so easily when December rolled in.
Today, in the middle of an ordinary day, I ran into an old friend. Red suit. White beard. Very familiar twinkle in his eye. He asked me if I’d been good this year—and just like that, I felt eight years old again.
Then he asked what was on my Christmas list.
I thought about it for a moment. No gadgets. No things. No shiny distractions. I told him I really just want to concentrate on my writing. On telling stories that make people feel seen. On spreading a little happiness wherever my words might land.
He smiled. The kind of smile that tells you he already knows the answer.
And just like that, I’m pretty sure I made the nice list—not because I was good, but because I kept showing up with heart. Sometimes, that’s the biggest Christmas thing of all. 🎄✨
Watching me grocery shop is like catching a rerun of that old, not-so-popular game show Supermarket Sweep. There is no casual strolling. No browsing. My race begins in the parking lot. The list lives on my phone, and the second those automatic doors part, I hit the ground running.
Before we go any further, I need a pinky swear. Promise you won’t judge me by my list. I’m on a journey to eat right. Most of my lunches and dinners come from a local meal prep service, so my weekly grocery run is really just about breakfasts and snacks. I rotate through the same staples so I don’t get bored… and spiral. Because boredom in the snack aisle is where dreams go to die.
Pinkies up?
Green grapes.
My ShopRite carries these absolutely colossal grapes. Raised-on-steroids, not-from-this-earth sized. Juicy. Luscious. Some days I freeze a cup and convince myself they’re tiny Italian ices. A girl can dream.
Yogurt.
Yes, I read reviews. Of yogurt. Lately, Cabot non-fat plain Greek has my heart. I toss in frozen, no-sugar-added fruit and call it breakfast. I know—it’s not exciting. But I’m trying to look good at the beach, and sacrifices must be made.
Snyder’s Buffalo Wing Pretzel Pieces.
You can’t always find them, which makes them feel exclusive. On desperate weeks, I order them online like a woman with priorities. I live for crunch, and these deliver every time.
Trader Joe’s Mini Brie Bites.
Each tiny wheel is 70 calories, which means I can pretend I’m hosting a charcuterie party for one. Cheese without guilt is a little miracle to me.
Eggs.
If you’ve been here a while, you already know this about me. A soft-boiled egg is perfection. Portable. Reliable. Essential. I cannot live without them.
And that’s it. Items scanned. Cart returned to the corral. Exits store victorious.
You would think it would be easy to answer the daily prompt about my favorite cartoon. I sat down to write saying, well, it was hands down Bugs Bunny. “Duh!” I thought. Turns out there was another choice that knocked on my brain and said, “Yabba Dabba Doo — I’m here too.”
The Flintstones showed up. How could I forget my modern stone-aged family?
I’ve always thought the animated series were written more for adult humor than kids. After all, the Flintstones were modeled after The Honeymooners—so closely, in fact, that Jackie Gleason contemplated suing the creators. And honestly? I get it. The jokes, the timing, the innuendos… half of it soared right over our childhood heads while our parents chuckled in the background.
But every week I’d plop down and watch the antics that Fred and his sidekick Barney—or Wilma and her bestie Betty—would tumble into. Prehistoric tales served up in modern situations. It cracked me up every time Wilma “vacuumed” using what basically amounted to a wooly mammoth on a stick. And don’t get me started on the celebrity cameos. There was something so perfectly corny about seeing a familiar face written into the show and handed a rock-themed name. Ed Sullivan? Ed Sullystone. And my absolute favorite: Ann-Margret shimmering onto the screen as Ann Margrock. Pure genius.
Maybe that’s why the Flintstones nudged their way into this prompt today. They weren’t just a cartoon; they were a tiny slice of comfort I didn’t realize I’d stashed away. A reminder of simpler afternoons, of laughing at jokes I only half understood, and of a world where dinosaurs doubled as household appliances and nobody questioned it.
So yes, Bugs Bunny may have been my first instinct. But the Flintstones? They’re the ones who quietly rolled their stone wheel into my heart and parked it there. Yabba Dabba Doo indeed.
I never feel totally comfortable talking about myself. Honestly, it’s probably one of the reasons I arrived fashionably late to the Blog Party. I spent years hovering outside the door, worried about putting myself out there, bracing for criticism that might never even come. But somewhere between dreaming about writing and actually doing it, I finally hit “send.” And just like that, my words were out in the world. Suddenly I was answering prompts, connecting with fellow bloggers, and fanning this tiny—but mighty—writer’s flame spark back to life.
With that little backstory, let’s tackle today’s prompt.
I feel like I’ve stepped onto the set of Family Feud or some fabulously cheesy 70s game show. “We surveyed one hundred people… tell us FIVE things you’re good at.” The lights are bright, the clock is ticking, and here we go.
1. Presentations.
Hand me a microphone and a room full of people, and I’m oddly at home. Speeches, training sessions, full-on emcee duties—bring it on. I spent years as a trainer at GEICO, teaching Customer Service employees. I genuinely miss those days. Twice I was asked to emcee my friend’s fundraising event, standing in front of 250+ people as we raised money for her cancer foundation. It was an honor, a thrill, and maybe the closest I’ll ever get to feeling like a celebrity host—minus the sequins.
2. Listening.
Not the pretend kind of listening where someone nods while crafting their response. I mean the real deal. I’m an active listener, always trying to understand not just what someone is saying—but what they mean. It’s one of the quieter things I’m proud of.
3. Shopping.
Look… part of this might be a hobby, part might be a personality trait, and part might be a slight obsession—but I am a good shopper. I can track down the perfect gift or that one impossibly specific item like it’s a mission assigned directly by the universe. I am relentless and I have no shame about it.
4. Dancing.
You will not catch me doing this in public anymore—my ego is fragile and TikTok is unforgiving—but I’m actually a pretty decent dancer. Nineteen years of dance will do that to a girl. It’s probably why Broadway musicals have my whole heart. I don’t just watch the show; I devour the choreography like it’s dessert.
5. Being a loyal friend.
Plain and simple. If you’re mine, I’ve got you. No disclaimers, no fine print. Just loyalty, wrapped up in love, salted with honesty, and delivered in the way only I know how.
Yesterday—Tuesday, December 2, 2025—my very own personal music awards ceremony took place. Yes, my ceremony. Center stage? Me. The venue? My living room. Wardrobe? Gym clothes, naturally. I was about to head out the door when Apple casually slipped an email into my inbox and—boom—the musical magic began. If you’ve ever wanted to feel electrified, frenetic, melodic, and fashion-forward all at the same time, try opening your Replay in leggings with your hair in a messy ponytail. The only thing missing was a red carpet… although my hallway runner tried its best.
This was the first year I remember Apple Music Replay arriving so ceremoniously. Meanwhile, my daughter got her Spotify Wrapped at the exact same moment—as if the tech gods synced our mother–daughter soundtrack reveal. The link was so cool. All of my favorite artists, songs, and playlists appeared like nominees awaiting their awards, meticulously ranked based on my year of listening. And as someone who is always humming, tapping, or blasting music from the car to the kitchen, it’s no shock to me (and now to all of you) that I logged thousands of plays over the last 365 days.
And the top honor? Apparently, “No Hard Feelings” by Old Dominion stole the show with a grand total of 17 plays. Seventeen! Listen, once I fall in love with a song, I commit. We’re in a long-term relationship until someone else sweeps me off my feet.
So, in true awards-show fashion, I’d like to thank the Academy—also known as Apple, Siri, her sister Alexa, and of course my iPhone—for delivering the soundtrack to my year. I’m forever grateful for the ability to tap into my music wherever I am. Technology really is a beautiful thing. This girl has come a very long way from sitting on her bedroom floor in middle school, pressing record on a cassette deck, praying the DJ wouldn’t speak over the intro of the song.
Thank you.
(Said into my imaginary microphone, under the glow of my living room spotlight.)
By now you know that I am a beach girl. Grew up on the beach. Love to vacation on a beach. Salt air is my bestie. Mountains? Well they’ve played a part in my life but truly not even a supporting role because the highest elevation on this island where I live is sometimes a mound of snow in a parking lot crafted by the snow plows after a six inch snowstorm.
Teen Kiki would travel to the mountains of Vermont to ski. There won’t be many blogs about those trips. Once I got going I wasn’t a bad skier. I was just terrified of it. Swooshing down a mountain at warp speed was not my thing. I hung up my skis in my 20s and never looked back.
That was of course until a new type of mountain exposure entered my life. Enter Spartan racing in 2016. When you start training for these races they never really tell you what to expect. They lure you in with the number of miles you’ll run and the amount of obstacles you’ll tackle in said run. What they leave out is the elevation in the mountain race series. Most mountain races are held at ski resorts. Some on the very same slopes I hurled my body down years prior. Now, I was hiking up the mountains and tossing myself over walls and swimming through mud pits. I won’t lie – the races were brutal but extremely gratifying. If you visit Killington Resort in Vermont and look very closely – you will find a piece of my soul carved into the side of the mountain. At mile 6 (out of 16) and starting the biggest climb up (called The Death March), my blood pressure spiked to 200/120. I collapsed. I woke up on an ATV wearing a helmet at base camp while paramedics started an IV on me. Finishing the race that day was not in my cards (I did return three years later to volunteer on course).
But that day in Killington changed something in me. Not in the big dramatic “and from that moment on I conquered every fear” sort of way. No. More in the “okay, mountains, I see you—and I respect the hell out of you” kind of way. Because mountains have a funny way of humbling you and expanding you at the exact same time. They’ll knock you flat on your back… and somehow still make you proud.
And yet, even after all that, I never converted into a mountain person. I didn’t suddenly start craving crisp alpine air or fleece-lined anything. Deep down, I’m still the girl who knows the exact shade the ocean turns at sunset, who can smell a tide change before she sees it, who feels most like herself when her toes are in warm sand. The beach is where my nervous system goes to exhale. The mountains? They’re where my blood pressure goes to audition for a horror film.
But here’s the thing: both have shaped me. The beach raised me. The mountains reminded me I’m tougher than I think. The beach is comfort. The mountains are challenge. One whispers. The other roars. And somewhere between the saltwater and the summit, I’ve learned that it’s okay to be a person who adores one and merely tolerates the other.
So yes, I’ll always pick a beach chair over a gondola ride. I will always choose sand over snow, flip-flops over trails, and a sunburn over frostbite. But I also carry a tiny sliver of Killington with me—the steep climb that nearly broke me and somehow built me all at once.
Mountains may never be my love story. But they are part of my plotline. And for that, I nod to them from sea level… preferably with a salty breeze in my hair and the waves reminding me I’m exactly where I belong.
If you could meet a historical figure, who would it be and why?
In our house, there’s a running list—maintained exclusively by me. It’s not Santa’s Nice or Naughty list; only the big man himself has access to those sacred scrolls. No, this one is far more personal. It exists only in my daydreams, updated mentally as I wander around my backyard or stir another pitcher of sangria.
It’s my Summer Barbecue Guest List:
Who from history—or from my lifelong love of entertainment—would I invite to sit beside me in an Adirondack chair and drink handcrafted sangria under the soft glow of string lights?
I adore entertaining in the summer. My backyard is modest, but I treat it like a tiny retreat—a place where mosquito fighter candles (ok Citronella) double as décor and the wind chime sings softly. Each year I add a few touches: new flowers, a statement lantern, maybe a fresh outdoor pillow that I swear I don’t need but somehow buy anyway. And every year, as I sit outside, the breeze in my hair, I revisit the guest list.
Billy Joel has made appearances on this list—because who wouldn’t want “Piano Man” playing live next to the grill? Jerry Seinfeld would absolutely question the concept of my list (“A party for dead people? Who does that?”), which somehow makes me want to invite him even more. And then there are Eli and Peyton Manning—because someone needs to help my family settle our eternal quarterback debates.
The list is long, ever-changing, and slightly chaotic—much like me. But one name never leaves. One name is permanently etched at the top, like it’s written in pixie dust:
Walt Disney.
What I wouldn’t give to have a real conversation with the greatest imagineer of all time. What we see in his parks and films is only the surface—the shiny tip of a much deeper, more daring iceberg. His mind, they say, never slept. Maybe that’s why the urban legend lives on in that he wanted to be cryogenically frozen, ready to be revived in some future era just to see if his ideas held up. I never understood that story entirely, but what I do understand is that his creativity shaped the childhoods of millions—including mine—and continues shaping generations that follow.
Some people aren’t Disney fans.
I am not one of those people.
If I ever had the chance to meet Mr. Disney, I think I’d skip the formalities and go straight in for a hug. A real one. The kind that says “thank you” without making a scene. I’d thank him for Herbie the Love Bug, which made my young heart feel like anything could come alive with a little imagination. I’d thank him for the castles, the characters, the music, the worlds he built out of thin air and big dreams. And most of all, I’d thank him for the look on my children’s faces every time we walked into Disney World—eyes wide, spirits lifted, wonder pouring out of them like light. That kind of magic stays with a mother forever.
And since this is my daydream, after the hug and the gratitude, I’d pour him a chilled glass of sangria and ask the questions that have lived rent-free in my mind for years:
What idea were you most proud of? Which one kept you up at night? What sparked your imagination the most—the characters, the worlds, or the believing?
I’d want to hear about his failures, too—the ones he learned from, the ones that stung, the ones that eventually led to something extraordinary. Because no great legacy is built without a few burnt hot dogs and wobbly patio chairs along the way.
The truth is, none of these people will ever set foot in my backyard. They’ll never taste my sangria or laugh at my mismatched patio cushions. But that’s not the point.
The point is that imagining these conversations—dreaming about what we’d say, what we’d learn, what we’d feel—reminds me why these individuals mattered to me in the first place. They shaped the soundtrack, the humor, and the curiosity in my little life.
Last night felt like crossing something off the bucket list I didn’t even realize was still sitting there waiting for me. Stevie Nicks in concert—with my Jules, no less. From the moment the lights dimmed, it felt like every version of myself across time was sitting right there in the arena with us.
It reminded me of blasting Stevie on the way to the beach, windows down, hair everywhere, belting out lyrics I didn’t totally understand yet—but felt in my bones. Or sitting cross-cross applesauce style on the shag carpet in the middle of my room, Rumors vinyl spinning, imagining whole worlds inside those songs.
Jules and I sang at the top of our lungs, the way I used to sing when no one was listening. Except now I was singing with someone from the next generation who loves these songs just as wildly as I did. It’s surreal—watching young people latch onto the music that shaped you. It’s proof that some art doesn’t age; it simply migrates. Music really can transcend eras, slipping through decades like it never stopped moving.
And then there’s Stevie herself.
Let’s talk about her.
Yes, she’s older now. But she’s still Stevie—twirling, storytelling, spell-casting. In her time she was an icon. But now, in 2025? “Iconic” doesn’t even begin to cover it. Legendary? Beyond that. Epic? Not quite enough. She’s something you can only feel, not label—like stardust, like myth, like the soundtrack to entire generations.
Seeing her live wasn’t just a concert. It was time travel. It was nostalgia and discovery sharing the same seat. It was a reminder that some voices don’t fade—they echo.
And last night, we got to echo right along with her.
I’m relatively new to this prompt answering process but not to blogging. Here is a piece I created a few years back about my gut instincts and where they can take me.
If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?
Living on an island you would think I would have my fill of water, sand, and salt life. Sound the game show buzzer. The correct response is that I need to be by the water. I can’t be landlocked. It is not in my plans.
My skin lights up when I’m by the ocean. Everything about the salt life has my name on it. Summers on Long Island can be brutally hot and humid. The type of humidity that sent 1980s permed curly hair screaming for a can of Stiff Stuff hairspray or worse – a baseball hat that couldn’t fit all of those locks underneath. To escape the heat we would head to the beach for a day with our friends. We would ride our bikes or if lucky enough we had a friend with a sibling that drove and we’d literally pile in their Chevy Nova until we could drive ourselves.
No beach chairs then – just towels and blankets stuffed in a canvas beach bag, bottle of Coppertone, can of Tab, transistor radio tuned to WBAB, plastic bag of ice, and a bologna sandwich with mustard. The crowd at our town beach was a combo of electric and chill all at once. Everyone from town was there and you always met people from neighboring towns that you’d see out at the local bars each week. The best part was this guy that roamed the beach selling ice cream. You’d hear him dragging his cooler and barking “Ice cold Fudgie Wudgie Bars”. Man – to me that was the coolest job around (pun intended). I grew up wishing to always be on the beach no matter where I was in life.
When the kids were small we fell in love with Florida’s west coast on a vacation to the Clearwater area. We drove through a town called North Redington Beach. That was it for me. I fell in love with everything about this jewel of a town. It was gorgeous and sleepy. It had edge yet was classic. I created a whole Pinterest board about the town on the plane ride home. To this day I still check the real estate prices and am saving my sheckles to buy something there soon.
I literally have the entire house I would like all mapped out. I’ve built it in my mind for a few years. I can see what I’m wearing as I sit outside at my pool looking out over the ocean (a pool – ocean/gulf combo is a must in my mind). There will be a dock and a boat. At the base of the dock will be a small hut or maybe a “she-shed” where I keep the paddle boards and yoga mats. I have even designed where I will write. A desk made from retired surfboards will be placed in a room with a floor to ceiling window that looks out over the Gulf. That will be where I answer all writing prompts one day as I sip Iced Americanos and reach into the cooler for you guessed it – a Fudgie Wudgie bar.
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